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You don’t have to wait for valentines day or your partners birthday… You can be romantic at any time - this sure will help you build a better and healthier relations ship. I have gathered some very simple tips and tricks on how to be romantic…

• Make a “Love CD”: compile a CD with all the songs she loves and that mean something to your relation ship (your first slow dance for example)
• heat up the bathroom, close all windows and make sure the bathroom is dark. Set up as much candles as you can find and fill the bath with lots of bubbles… - this one is always a winner.
• Surprise your partner with lunch during his / her workday… There is nothing that can beat a midday romantic lunch
• Write “I LOVE YOU” on the mirror - with lipstick, or anything else you can find
• Send your partner a SMS message or a mail with only the words “I love you” nothing more… simple but effective
• Go to the movies , try to get a seat in the last row and start cuddling
• In the midst of talking about how your days went, the chores that need to be done, etc. interrupt and say “I have something important to tell you. I love you and here’s why.” Then list 5 things (or more) that you really appreciate about your partner. Finish with a kiss and say, “Ok, so you were talking about the water heater.”
• Write a love letter and mail it… (not email it, but snail mail it)
• Before going to a party together come up with some secret code words you can use during conversation. You can be telling each other “I can’t wait to get you alone tonight!” without anyone knowing!
• Get a hotel room in your area, for just one night… spontaneously
• write an ad declaring your love and publish it in the local newspaper… leave it on the kitchen table with a note telling her on which page to look
• Write a poem. Then use Google Translator to translate a poem into either French or Italian. Then handwrite it out with the translation on the back side. Or better yet, greet your partner at night and read it to them with passion and then hand them the translation.
• buy some romantic smelling oil and massage your partner after a long day at work
• Dedicate a song to him/her on the radio and send him/her an email telling him when to listen.
• Make an early valentine. Cut out some paper in the shape of a heart. Write something sweet on it in red and put it in her purse or his briefcase.
• If your partner is going on a business trip secretly hide a love note inside their luggage.
• Offer to help them with some dreaded chore they must complete and make it into a fun time maybe with some music. (cleaning out the basement, raking the leaves, shoveling after a big snow storm, giving the dog a bath, washing the car, etc.)
• Do something romantic and spontaneous, like picking a flower and giving it to her right on the spot.
• Buy some body paint and write your love message on your body.
• Record yourself reading a romantic love poem for your honey. Then give your partner a CD and tell them to play it in the car on their way to work.
• Keep a box with mementos of fun things you’ve done together. Later when the box is filled, arrange them on a board and have it framed.
• Say “I Love you” … simply as that, just say it.
• Create a small website or a blog as a journal of your love… write every day a thing that makes you love each other
• Take an interest in your partner’s interests. For a woman it might be watching a football game with your guy. And for men it might be going to see a chick-flick. Do it with a spirit of enthusiasm and love. Have fun.
• Take a walk on the beach together. Run up ahead and write a message in the sand, and then call your partner to see what you “found.”
• Buy some underwear with special messages on it. Or buy your own and paint a special picture or message with fabric paints.
• Blindfold surprise. Blindfold your partner and drive them to the place where you had your first date, and have that date all over again!
• King for a Day/ Queen for a Day. Declare that you will dedicate a particular day just to your partner to do whatever they want. Maybe start with breakfast in bed.
• Just give your partner a big wet kiss in public

Good luck!

I found these ten tips on the internet and i am sure you can use them. Make sure you read them at least one or two times a day until they become a mantra for you. If you want to have better sex - you have to learn how to become a better lover or the lover your partner wants you to be.

It’s not all about jumping into the bed and hammering her… Women need more then physical contact - and your physical performance as good as it might be, is not enough.

Start early
Lovemaking doesn’t start when you crawl in between the sheets. It starts before you even get out of bed. What you do throughout the day either enhances or decreases your chance for intimacy. Kiss before leaving for work. Meet for lunch. Call in the middle of the day. Smile at each other. Little things go a long way in getting you and your partner in the mood.

Pay attention to touch
If your partner has ever said, “The only time you touch me is when you want to have sex,” you are not paying attention to non-sexual touch. When there is a lot of non-sexual touch, it makes sexual touch more exciting and more desirable. Non-sexual touch can be rubbing her shoulders or feet as you watch a movie, resting your hand on his lap while driving, or holding hands.

Look good
If 100 people wrote their top ten turn-ons, I bet that 99% of them listed something relating to how a person looks. So keep looking good! Forget about, “If he loved me, he would love me even in sweats.” He might love you is sweats, but he won’t be as turned on.

Smell good
Smelling good is sexy. When your partner smells good, it makes you want to get closer. When you are close, chemical reactions can happen and ignite a fire! Really! I am talking about pheromones, the chemical Viagra. If you’ve seen male dogs rather ’round a female in heat, you know the power of pheromones. Being too sweaty can cancel out and mask their effectiveness. So be clean and let the “love scent” do its work.

Master the art of good conversation
People stop talking when they feel the other isn’t listening. This is a major intimacy killer. When share your inner thoughts and feelings or listen while your partner speaks of his day, you create intimacy that is needed for good sex.

Share activities
If your partner wants to do something or go somewhere, tag along. The more time you spend together, the more opportunity you have to cozy up, touch, and have good conversation. A pleasant day spent with the one you love is a powerful aphrodisiac.

Schedule time for romance
Knowing that you have a date can heighten anticipation and make lovemaking more fun.

Be spontaneous
You can plan and be spontaneous too. Add some spice by dressing differently, putting on a wig, talking with an accent, or going somewhere on a whim. Fantasize and take your fun where you find it.

Take care of yourself
When you are rested and fit, you will have more energy and desire for love so you can give and receive more.

Let go in bed
Forget about kids, work, or your “to do” list. Turn off the brain activity and let lovemaking be your escape. It will help you unwind, refresh, and keep you looking forward to the next time!

A very good article found on LoveCentria.com about when the time is right for the first kiss in a relationship. This article covers many aspects of the first kiss and why it is difficult and hard.

Sex and Love are among the things that make our lives better and increase our pleasure to live. But every good thing has a less pleasurable side and one must admit that a lot of stress is associated with these delightful activities. The first touch, the first kiss, the first evening out, the first night spent together, all these key moments of the early part of a relationship can be very stressful for both partners. Some people think that these moments can make or break relationships, but the issue is still up for debate.

Not everybody gets it right the first time and many first nights spent together are not that great. It takes time to learn what the other likes, wants and looks for in and out of bed, so there are bound to be a lot of early fumbles and mistakes. On the plus side, these awkward moments may end up as sweet memories two lovers can laugh about years later. Still, a mistake is a mistake and the fewer one does, the better off everybody is.

Since you both are most likely to be nervous the first time, make sure you set the stage for this event. When you feel you are both comfortable with each other and that your relationship has advanced enough to warrant a more intimate approach, make a plan for the setting of the first kiss. Choose a location you are familiar with and whose main feature is intimacy.

There is also an ungodly amount of hype surrounding first kisses. The two partners should, allegedly, hear bells ringing or feel like having a thousand butterflies in their stomachs and other such nonsense. Don’t let such ideas put you off if the first kiss was not followed by a huge display of fireworks. Cherish it as the first step toward what may prove to be a special relationship and move forward. In other words, kiss her because you both feel like it, not because it’s some sort of ritual, and do it at your own pace and in your own style.

If you are not certain of what she wants or likes, then don’t rush into a French kiss. Brush your lips gently against hers, look into her eyes for the confirmation and then come back for a second try with a more resolute approach. If she does not recoil, then you can be a bit more firm. But the gentle brushing is a very good idea for the first kiss. It will net you points for both control and tenderness.

Unless you are the type who jumps head first into anything and just hopes for the best, you may want to actually take a moment and think about this before doing anything. A lonely bench in the park at sunset is a good idea. The doorstep of her parents’ house is not. Don’t make a hasty affair of the first kiss because your girlfriend is very likely to remember this for a long time afterwards. Pick a quiet spot, where nobody is going to bustle in on you just as you’re getting ready to share a pleasant moment. Make sure your hygiene is fit for this occasion: no bad breath, no smelly body.

No fancy stuff on the first kiss. There’ll be time enough for this later on. Don’t spoil the moment by trying something really special and making a mess of it. Stick to a slow and gentle kiss that paves the way for the more advanced stuff to come. Just focus on sliding into each other’s arms, finding a comfortable position and kissing away to heart’s content. If you can pull this off without a hitch, then you can say your first kiss with that partner was a complete success.

Not getting enough of new positions, variations and techniques? Well, you can rest assured because we’ve found another couple of techniques for you to try out. Playful exploration is one of the best parts of sex and we’re doing our best to keep you happy. So, here are the new techniques that you can try when nobody’s around.

Many men enjoy the feeling of something cold placed against the hot skin of the penis. Since sticking the penis in a fridge is impractical, we recommend the use of ice cubes or crushed ice to increase the strength of orgasms. Here’s how it works. Masturbate the way you usually do using your preferred technique and keep a few ice cubes or a bag of crushed ice handy. When you feel the climax building pick up the ice cubes and place them against your testicles or rub them over your penis, if you can manage that without getting in the way. Trust us, the feeling is quite unique.

The first one is a bit tricky to pull off. Lie on your back with your erect penis straight up in the air. Wrap the fingers of one hand around the base of the penis and start stroking yourself with a quick, circular motion. Make sure the strokes are always short. The stroking speed must vary in order to get the glans to jerk around in a circular motion, the reverse of that of your hand. Be careful: ejaculation can be very messy due to sperm flying all over the place.

Or you could try a technique devised by people with lots and lots of time on their hands, the connoisseurs of the masturbation world. The basic idea is to bring yourself to a good, strong orgasm by tapping gently on the glans, through the underwear. The orgasm will be slow coming, but the sensation is bound to be much stronger than usual.

If you enjoy masturbating in the bath and using hot water then you simply have to try the steam bath. Get naked and into the bathroom and turn on the hot water tap. Let the water flow for a couple of minutes in order to turn the room into a regular sauna. When everything in the bathroom is hot and steamy, get into the tub (mind the hot water!) and start masturbating, using the heat and steam as lubricant. The sensation is quite unique and very pleasant.

A good way to heighten orgasm is to put a little pressure on your testicles. During masturbation, reach down and start caressing and squeezing your testicles. Make sure you don’t press too hard on them, even though it may seem to you that you can stand it. During the orgasm, you will feel the semen moving up from the testicles as the scrotum contracts. the experience will certainly be an intense one.

Article source: LoveCentria.com

Pleasure is only limited by your imagination and by the body’s physical limitations. Sex is one of the key areas of life where humans must keep improvising and coming up with new things in order to avoid trading pleasure for a routine that does no good to anybody. Therefore, men and women have to turn to their imagination in order to find new ways of making sex feel good. It might be a new position, acting out a fantasy or even closing your eyes and thinking about somebody else. Whatever it is, people have to let their minds and instincts take over if they want to feel that precious rush.

This is why I have compiled a list of masturbation positions and techniques that you can try at home whenever you feel like it.

The first one on the list aims to simulate the feeling of a tight vagina closing in around the penis. This technique requires you to lie on your side and grasp the penis with the right hand. Go with a full fisted grip, but make sure you grab your penis from the left and not from the right, as per the usual grip or a right-handed man. Then you twist your wrist in such a way that the thumb is pointing down instead of up. You might have to pull the penis to the side in order to achieve the correct grip, but don’t worry about it because the position is perfectly natural. Now complete the movement and lay face-down on the bed with the penis in your hand. Start thrusting using your pelvis and hips, while keeping your hand very still.

A very different technique, suited mostly for those who are eager to play with themselves for a good long time in order to achieve a strong orgasm the slow way is to stimulate only the tip of the penis. Spread lubricant on one of your palms and start rubbing the tip of the penis against it. You should try to change the speed of rubbing every now and then in order to experience the all the sensations this technique has to offer.

Those who like do the whole thrusting thing should also try a nice technique whose purpose is to create the unique feeling of sliding into a vagina that does not end. It may sound strange, but this is one very good position. So grab your penis in a full-fisted grip and push the tip upward through the fingers. When the tip of the penis is about to burst through, place your left hand on top of the right hand in order to form a continuous tunnel. Then repeat the movement by removing your right hand from the base of the penis and placing it on top of the left hand. Keep the penis surrounded by your fingers at all times and you are in the never-ending vagina.

Alternatively, you could try a powerful milking technique to get yourself a true rush. Lubricate your hands and make a ring around the base of the penis using the thumb and middle finger of one hand. Move the ring all the way up to the tip of the penis. Just as you reach the tip, form a similar ring at the base of the penis with the other hand. Milk your penis for all it’s worth. Men who use this technique claim to experience amazing erections and orgasms.

For more solitary thrills you may want to try a really special technique. It goes like this: hold the base of the penis firmly in one hand. Place the other hand on the shaft and move upward in a spiral-like movement. You should give extra attention to the tip of the glans and caress it in order to squeeze as much pleasure as possible from this technique. When you feel you are about to reach climax, move both hands just underneath the tip and use them in powerful circular motions in order to get yourself over the edge.

Add a delicate touch to your self-pleasure session with one of the most gentle techniques around. Gather the loose part of the foreskin located just below the tip of the penis and rub it gently with your fingers. What you want to do is to rub your fingers together through the skin. The sensation is very pleasing and relaxing and the orgasm is a slow, but powerful rush.

Article Source: LoveCentria.com

Exploring the sensual sensations and how the body reacts to stimulation starts in teen age. During the teen years almost all people are already familiar with most of their body parts and know that the touching fo their private parts is very pleasant. They already know their sex organs (some more and some less).

Even if the parents discourage these activities children know that playing with them makes them feel good (although they don’t understand yet why). It doesn’t really matter much how parents handle this and how many taboos they might invoke, people are naturally curious about everything. The fact that many adults refuse to discuss the issue about it just makes everything more interesting.

Most explorations start with touching and goes on to masturbation. For most children, this is the gateway to sex and the beginning of the path to the great world of sex and pleasure. And it’s a good thing this is comes during the early steps in a person’s life. Although masturbation and lack of knowledge about the physical side of the opposite sex are not the best way to prepare for intercourse, knowing oneself is still better than ignorance.

In the Victorian age, a certain English poet abstained from all manner of sex in order to be a virgin when he finally married at the age of 28. At the end of the wedding night he was extremely disappointed to find what intercourse actually was. He had hoped for something far grander, especially since he wrote love poems. However, his view of passion was completely unrealistic and led to a crushing disappointment.

Masturbation helps people learn what they really like when the clothes fall off and also what they would like other people to do to them. Knowing more about the pleasure they experience makes people more likely to understand the pleasure of others and to want to explore new ways of getting more of it for themselves and for their partners.

Communication of what we want and what we need is one of the most important parts of a successful sex life, since guessing is not a good option. And imagine what an amazing surprise it is to find that your partner is also interested in masturbation and not in the least shy to share this intimate act with you. Mutual masturbation can be a very tender act between two people who really know how to give and take pleasure.

It is worth noting that masturbation is a good option during those times when intercourse is not easy to come by. If you don’t feel bound by moral, religious or other duties, then there’s no reason to avoid getting rid of your sexual tension by masturbating. You’ll certainly feel more relaxed afterwards and the others will profit from your improved mood as well. A satisfied person is a person less likely to quarrel and start conflicts in the office or at home.

For most, or even all men, the performance of his buddy in his pants and those two dangling attachments are a matter of pride and self-esteem. For one it’s the size, for another the hardness of the erection or the mastery of controlled ejaculation.

Imagine the number of men that suffer from premature ejaculation or other ejaculation control issues. These men are very interested in anything that could help them improve their sex lives by gaining control over the rebel penis and his ejaculation. Their pride, self-esteem and reputation are slowly eroded every time the penis gets out of hand and spoils the fun of both partners. Of course, these men could go to see doctors in order to find out if their problems can be fixed or not. Some of them do, but many prefer to hide their dysfunction and suffer in silence than to face the fact that they have a problem which must be dealt with sooner or later.

Still, some men could benefit from a simple piece of advice. Ejaculation is controlled at the physical level by a muscle called pubococcygeus, also known as the PC muscle. This is one of the most overlooked muscles in the male body and the average man has little idea it exists. Training the PC muscle and keeping it in shape is out of the question. And yet, this muscle has the power to make or break our sex lives. Ejaculation is only possible if the PC muscle is relaxed, which means that tensing it stops ejaculation dead. No pills, no trips to the doctor. It’s do it yourself heaven.

The pubococcygeus muscle is located in the pelvic area and can easily be found by any man. Go into the bathroom and start urinating then stop in mid-flow. The muscle you tense in order to stop the flow of urine is the PC muscle. There are toilets within easy reach everywhere, which means that men don’t get to exercise this muscle at all. Not that one would wish to exercise his PC muscle by looking around for a toilet, say, for about half an hour. The best way to get this muscle in shape and to bring ejaculation under control is to exercise it every day.

The exercise is simple, albeit a bit tedious. You can exercise in front of the TV, at work or while driving. It’s a good way to fill the wasted time spent driving to or from work. The basic idea is to locate the muscle and start flexing it. Clench the PC muscle, hold it clenched for two seconds and then release it slowly. Keep doing clenching sessions every day and you will soon feel the difference. A well-trained PC muscle will let you to rein in ejaculation and to allow it only when you feel like it.

This is power!

This tip was provided by LoveCentria.com

The libido of every man is directly influenced by his health. The need for sex, the willingness to love and the capacity to enjoy life cannot be fully expressed and felt without a state of near perfect health. Stress and illness have a negative effect on the function of the nervous system, to which one could also add the negative impact of unhealthy eating habits and stimulants, such as coffee, cigarettes, tea, chocolate, alcohol and recreational drugs. All these lifestyle choices weigh down on the libido and leave men unable to enjoy sex and leave them frustrated with their sex lives.

If one wants to bring back the thrill of good sex, he should make some changes to the daily schedule and clamp down on some of these lifestyle choices. Smoking and drinking alcohol are known form hampering the blood flow and for decreasing the frequency of erections, which will make it harder for men to perform in bed. Good sex needs an healthy body. Cut down the smokes, the drinking and have less coffee for a few days and you will immediately feel the difference… and not only you will feel the difference, but your partner too.

Food choices are also highly important for sex. If your evening meal is usually rich in steaks, drinks and deserts, then your libido will retire right after dinner and leave you and your partner frustrated. High fat meals lower the levels of testosterone in the body, thus depressing the libido and making erections and ejaculations harder to achieve. Men should also avoid hormonally enhanced meat and dairy products because of the high content of estrogens. These substances have a dramatic negative impact on the levels of testosterone produced by the male body. Instead, men would do well to choose organic foods whenever these are available.

Some very good foods for men are fish (especially tuna, salmon, herring and mackerel), chicken, beans, turkey, nuts, seeds and lentils. These foods are loaded with arginine, the amino acid that plays a crucial role in the release of hormones and the dilation of blood vessels. Other foods containing arginine are wheat germ, granola, oatmeal, cottage cheese and shrimp. Men also need a lot of zinc in their daily diet. Zinc helps the production of sperm and preserves the proper motility of the sperm. The best sources of zinc are raw oysters and most other seafood products, pumpkin and sunflower seeds, peas, beans and liver.

Nutrition and exercise are very important for men. Anything that is good for the muscles and cardiovascular system is good for the sex life, which means that working out and careful eating should be on top of every man’s list of priorities. If you like sex and if you want to enjoy it for a long time, you should make sure that your body can keep up with the physical effort required by this delightful pastime. Exercising a couple of times a week is not that hard, while including a couple of foods in your daily diet cannot harm you. Try this combination of arginine and zinc rich food coupled with regular exercising and you’ll be surprised with the results.